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Eunoia, July 14th

Today is a happy, chatty instalment of Eunoia… the kind where I just tell you what’s on my mind. And it comes complete with a Permissive Circumstance at the end.
Thank you for the dozens of songs that dropped into my inbox, I’ll be putting them all on a playlist and listening while I write later.

Shout-outs.

K writes:
Dear Mistress Elswyth! Thank you so much for the wonderful Spring sleep session that you made for me, I had my best sleep for as long as I can remember – and the best time before falling to sleep – after listening to your recording at bedtime. Your voice and your words and your sentences are so precious to me. You make me calm down and relax and to feel safe. I am so grateful to have found you and to have you in my life.

Thank you so much for your kind words, Kjell; every response to the Sleep Sessions has always made the whole creation process wonderfully rewarding.
This was the last Sleep Session I will make, though there are a few that were made, but that I’m now hunting down!
Right now I’m seeing the first requests for Personalized Mind Control Fragments filter in; if you’re a Patron you can check there to find out more, and if not you can request a Custom MCF here.

Here’s some of the songs that have been suggested…

M suggests: Kiss of Life by Peter Gabriel

I’m on board with this one!

CD suggests: The Tide is High by Blondie

I don’t think I’ve heard this, but I can already tell I’m going to enjoy it.

Tm suggests: Chop Suey! by System of a Down

I know of this band, and expect this one is going to be loud!

V suggests: Margaritaville by Jimmy Buffet

This will be interesting. I know the tune, but I can’t remember any of the lyrics. I wonder if I’ll be left thinking V is making some statement about his opinions of me with this suggestion…

Tm writes:
What is the circumference and length of the plug or dildo I would need to take your strap on?

Well, I promised I’d answer a question or two that was a little racier than what usually pops up in my inbox! And the answer might not be what everyone wants to hear, but like most women who own a strap-on I have more than one toy which can be attached to the front of it.
For most purposes, the inch-wide, six-inch long pink toy (it’s smooth and not at all realistic) works just fine. I do also have a cock that’s black silicone, fairly rigid, and about ten inches long. It’s a little more fun to play with; it looks much more intimidating and has lots of wonderful ridges and textures.
Perhaps I should start a Bad Dragon fund on Ko-Fi?

P writes:
Dear Mistress, I am interested in your Femdom Orgasms Control. The problem is, I don’t have the willpower to not touch myself in between. So I would like to buy a chastity cage, but I don’t know which is good? Can you recommend me one, or at least a good place to safely buy one online? Also I’m curious in the possibilities of online keyholding. Can you provide me more information? Sorry for all the questions and thank you in advance for your answers.

Alright, I’ve never once worn a chastity cage (for obvious reasons). I have worn a key on a cord around my neck for a few days, but it’s pretty scratchy. Of the people I know “In the Flesh” who’ve ever worn one and had any success there’s two things I’d suggest;
First there’s the “Holy Trainer” style toys that are made of a rigid, plastic-type material. Apparently these are fairly comfortable, but one partner who wasn’t circumcised couldn’t get on with it at all since skin tended to “stick” to the inside of the toy after a while.
Second, if you visit eBay or any other online shop where people resell cheap toys (AliExpress, why not?) you can find all manner of inexpensive steel cages with simple padlocks. The same partner who didn’t like the Holy Trainer (let’s call them B) found better success here. B liked a metal cage that was a bit more open, so he could prod things anywhere they pinched.
Universally the men in my life who liked this kind of play agreed on one thing; these kinds of cages are more comfortable with briefs or other tight-fitting underwear, rather than loose-fitting boxers. The extra weight isn’t supported by boxer shorts, and ends up getting uncomfortable quick.
If anyone has any advice or success stories, leave a comment… or reach out and I’ll perhaps add your comments to the next blog post.