Orgasm control isn’t a new thing. Nor is it limited to femdom or BDSM. Many women have used a gentle “not yet?” to get a partner to hold on a bit longer. Granted, I like that “gentle control” to in both mental and physical ways. ** scroll down for the lecture regarding female orgasms.
What is a Permissive Circumstance?
The phrase “permissive circumstance” is my term for orgasm control based on sometimes whimsical and sometimes deliberate conditions.
I love orgasm hypnosis triggers, chastity cages, or good ol’ fashioned D/s training. The perk to a female-led relationship (FLR) is I have nobody to blame if my needs go unmet. (Well, I can place blame and have yum punishments – but it eventually leads to improved behaviour).
As for chastity cages – you get what you pay for. You don’t need the most expensive, but you do need quality. There are lots of ways to do keyholding in person and online. Ask if you’re interested in learning more. I have made allowances for people in certain scenarios, but this isn’t a “make up your own rules” kind of game.
The Simple Rules
- One permissive circumstance chance per 24 hour period.
- No cheating and seeking release prior to Eunoia (or similar session).
- Say thank you. You do not need to ask permission (that is why we do PCs) but you do need to say thanks.
Previous permissive circumstances:
- If you’ve had a hot drink already today.
- NOT if you’ve thought about chastity since yesterday.
- If you own a butt plug.
- If you practice a curtsy – a dozen times, near a mirror.
- If you researched King Arthur tales over the past two days.
- If you’ve never worn panties.
- If you (publicly or privately) share a kink with Elswyth
- these are NOT current permissive circumstances. Listen to Eunoia for the latest.
***the lecture
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Protip for typical m/f relationship or m/m/f relationship or… If during sex, you make sure that she comes first, it not only makes you an A+ dude and makes your sex life more satisfying. A lot of women seem to struggle with regular intercourse and orgasm. Some toys, a tongue, skilled fingers, etc., can go a long way for spicing it up. If you have a partner that seems reserved/shy about asking for what she wants, try this – tell her you don’t plan on having an orgasm that night, you only want to see what’s working for her *right now* (Y’know, so you don’t sound like a doofus for not already knowing your lady). And ffs if you don’t own any sex toys, get a few. You don’t even have to walk into the embarrassing shop with edible underwear.
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P.s. if someone wants to share an m/m relationship tip, feel free. My usual sources haven’t been helpful. Instead, I got a flippant “Guys work it out”.
