Eunoia (October 15th), Authentic Submission and Being the Prop

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In this chapter I talk about old telephone answering machines and ramble for longer than I should.

Transcript

Today is Friday, and this is Eunoia, Spoken by Elswyth. Eunoia is all about our connection outside of our sessions together. Send me your messages through Patreon or the website to be included in the “listen” section and continue on to “obey” for homework and permissive circumstances and so on. If you’re unfamiliar with permissive circumstances, go to my website and read some more there.

So a warm welcome to Eric and Michael with an “A” for joining my happy harem here on Patreon. Welcome in. I had lots of messages from tidy boys and most of them, well, most might be an understatement. Most of them didn’t seem genuinely excited about the idea of wearing a stained shirt, one patron in particular, he mused over the question of if he continued on with his own personal growth if it would make him well, I guess, if it would rid him of his desire to do things, that make him uncomfortable, for others.

Now in the everyday life and the outside world, that mundane that we refer to, probably yeah. But in this shared headspace or in realms of consent, of this power exchange, probably not. What you’re describing, and if you feel the same way, dear listener, then this applies to you too, is an authentic submissive mindset. You feel good when you’re doing something for someone else and you feel even better when it’s tied up with your sexuality and I don’t think most people will ever totally shake that. Partly because you won’t want to.

I’m not saying of course, that you have to be some kinkster in order to appreciate the good feelings that come from doing something for someone else. I’m just saying, when it’s tied up with lust, that’s a whole different ball game and we’re all mature enough to understand the difference between our everyday life interactions and our consensual adult ones. So this is also a little bit, well it’s distinct from the other kind of submissive guy that I see who has a particular kink or fetish or a predilection for a powerful, strong, dominant woman.

But, and this one drives me batshit crazy, but the woman, they always want her to perform a certain role in a scene. It is being the prop. It is the telephone sat on the table. It is the – I’m trying to think of some other props. I have to confess here. For my unwinding every so often, I’ve been rewatching Seinfeld and, oh, wow. I didn’t watch the early Seinfeld. I don’t have no idea when I came into watching Seinfeld but a few of the artifacts in there are, they’re just hilarious to me to see them.

Now, you totally forget that some of these things had existed, like using somebody else’s phone, and we’re way off the topic of fetish here, but using somebody else’s phone, to call your answering machine. I remember when that came out, just thinking that was some kind of voodoo or something.

Anyway. So, so the second group of person, and I’m not saying it’s bad per se. Especially, if the other person, the top that you have in the scene, is fine with it. But if you have to constantly – if you constantly just want the one thing and the other person only performs the one role, it’s, it’s completely different. And people can get that, obviously, from me, you can just stay in one of the particular pillars and be like, “This is where I belong”. You know, “I’m Margaret” or a “Pixie”. Man, I would take a house full. I would take a house full of Margarets and Pixies and others today. That just sounds like fun.

But it is different than the person who has this overall submissive role that they have adopted and part of the reason why this is actually on my mind is I would say about a quarter of the messages I get are very, very prescriptive. Very, “This is exactly what I’m looking for. Can you do this?” Which is fine. A lot of great ideas come from that, but I will say like the other bit, the other three quarters that this is focused on wanting training and wanting to cultivate and continue to grow that authentic submissive side that perhaps you’ve seen others and, you know, right.

You’re like, “Yeah, but what is he doing? How does he do that?” Or you’ll meet somebody in your everyday life that you want to be around them and long after you’re done having a conversation or whatever else, you still remember them because of the way they made you feel.

So I’ve been mulling this over, partly because it is dark when I take my doggo for a walk in the morning. So it just gives me plenty of time to be in my own little quiet world and think. I’ve been slotting in a collection of different sessions and almost seeing how these things would connect in together to make my, ideal is a little bit of a lofty word, isn’t it. But to create and to mold my perfect everyday companion. So, yeah, he can, he can adopt some of the Sabriel concepts or, the Pixie ones or the Prissy ones. He can do all those things, right. He can – he loves the rope, when I say I have to try this new kind of tie, he’s like, “Yes Mistress, let’s go do that.” You know, and we try out things or if I have, you know, a new cane, cause I do love how those lines line up and do that. He’s also right into it for “it”, but for everyday life, for, “Let’s go down to the shop and grab some milk,” the person walking along beside me, there is a personality type. There is a submissive that I want for that.

So I am going to have a series of things that are coming out. That’s basically going to tell you how to do so. I just can’t think of a fucking name for it. What would you call it? Is that personal growth? Is that foundations, is that – should I just call it Sabriel and it’s Sabriel without the taking him under and doing naughty things to him side? You tell me. That’s your homework: what would you call that?

Or would you just call it, “Elswyth Submissive Training?” Because it does include everything. Taking care of your mind, your body, walking, moving with grace, having compassion, working on those listening skills. It has all of that. It’s a personality tune up, perhaps. Anyway, that’s your homework. Let me know what you would title something like that and where you feel it would slot into our pillars.

Oh, Speaking of sessions, “Be more bold”. That is the personal growth session that’s on my Patreon poll. So that’s going to be released tomorrow as the Saturday session. If you were hoping the “Fear of Being Naked” session would win. It’s going to come out some time next month. I promise it’s done. It’s just waiting there. And if that makes you feel antsy, well, marshmallow. Marshmallow, you can be a patient pet.

Okay. So our listen and obey kind of got mixed up in there, but that’s okay. It’s Friday, Fri-yay, right. Tomorrow, enjoy that session. Enjoy be more bold. I truly loved creating it for you.

And your Permissive Circumstance, your permissive circumstance is this. If – it’s going to require going outside, and if you can’t go outside, maybe you could substitute TV. If on your walk outside, a normal walk for you, don’t go 20 miles or something, you can see five pumpkin’s, you have my permission. And if it’s locktober for you, you have my permission to continue on being denied.

Okay. Download the session tomorrow and I will see you on Monday.