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Update: A week of hedonism always brings a few hiccups. The podcast episode was playing at double-speed, but is no longer misbehaving.
Mentioned in this episode, my seduction of Sabriel in the Violet session. This was the first Sabriel session, and I’ve only recently made it available outside of Patreon.
I also promised a discreet link to my Amazon Wishlist in the show notes. You’ll see that the Kobo reader is on there. If you have strong opinions on eReaders to replace my Kindle, send me a polite note.
Transcript
Welcome to Episode 19. We’re going to talk a bit about Pleasurable Possibilities.
How a Mistress Takes Time Off
Now I am back from my holiday, and I know that you’ve missed me. It’s always nice to be missed a little bit, isn’t it? And I guess you’re actually not supposed to call them holidays. They’re, ah, “Staycations”. If you haven’t left the country. So silly, isn’t it?
Can you imagine if you’re in the States, and say you live in Maine, and you hauled off to see the Four Corners. For those unfamiliar it’s where… oh on, this is a Geography lesson. Utah, Colorado, New Mexico? And… ah, Arizona, come together. I think those are the four, I refuse to Google. And there’s a spot called the Four Corners if you’re there and I guess twirl in a circle you can see all the States. If somebody did that, would you still call it a Staycation? Probably not. I don’t even know if I left here and went that same distance what country I would end up in.
So, it was a great holiday. It was… to one of my favorite places. It’s also like the favorite place of something like 3 million other people that go yearly. But it has a beach, which I love… and one of those beaches that changes personality and the water likes to change color. It’s perfectly clear, when you go out a bit of course, which is also quite nice. And it has these… I guess they would be called “hills”. Not quite mountains. There. So there’s just the flat part where this town is and the beach is, and everything else if full of these hills, for hiking and going through trails everywhere, it’s just… it’s marvelous.
I think there’s a lot to be said for just exploring around you and taking a break.
So, oh… I had an interesting stumble down a rabbit trail while I was sitting on the beach. One of my pleasures is to have my Kindle, phone, and journal nearby so whatever hedonistic whim that comes my way can be answered. Although my Kindle continues to be a bit iffy. I don’t think it really liked the beach trip. Oh, and if anyone wants to weigh in… I know I have so many readers, this still goes with pleasure, but I’m just going to ask; if anyone wants to weigh in on whether the Kobo eReaders are better? I’m all ears. I did throw one on my wishlist so if you’re like a Kobo Cultist and you feel I must partake, go to the list and click. That link will be in the episode notes.
And the other thing I typically find myself doing on the beach has nothing to do with the phone, the journal, or the eReader. It’s making random conversation. I happened to just have a coffee, and I was by myself, and this random dude comes up. And he’s telling me about how windy it was, he has slept on a tent, like… as he puts it “On the cliff”. But the cool thing was, because I thought “Oh, great… either he’s going to ask me for money, or something else.” He did look like a guy who had slept on the cliff.
Instead he told me that he had woken up around like 4:30AM and he notices where this container ship was. And then, when I happened to see him he pointed out where it was now, and how it had barely moved in that time. So I found myself… I had gone back to the flat, and then gone back to the beach, it was just watching this container ship. And I love that, because I like the little things. I know that if I can appreciate these little details in the world, that overall life is pretty good, right?
No, it’s not going to convince me that I should be sleeping in a tent, on a cliff, I have nothing against tents. I’m just not a fan of heights.
So this random conversation which included quite a bit of this and that, it felt like when you visit a random subreddit. And sometimes you feel a bit like that Alice in Wonderland… you know, Alice and the Looking Glass. There are things that are very familiar, and other things that totally… they’re not.
Erotic Hypnosis for Pick Up Artists?
So I was going down this rabbithole, seeing how there’s theis Alice in Wonderland theme, there. And it reminded me of when a friend had linked me to a site that she was trying to figure out if it was satire. That it was for pickup artists… PUA… maybe it’s called “PU-AH”, I have no idea. But it was like that.
So some things are familiar, you know… dating, seduction, how to choose a partner or three. And other things are bizarre, like the Cheshire Cat in the tree, the whole “Number system” and how to work seduction phrases and words into your daily conversation. Now, granted… I was in a male-seeking-females kind of subreddit, and god has blessed those dudes if any of that works in the way they’re going about it. So the words that I’m going to end up using on you are very much in that vein, okay? Dude tryna seduce a girl.
Now, I do know the power of words, and I do love a clever seduction. We had that with the one Sabriel session which is about the violet shirt. I think it’s called “Violet”. He’s wearing a violet shirt, you know… that’s about that type of seduction. But these phrases… I don’t know, these phrases are different. So we’re going to try these, okay? We’re going to do some deep breathing together, and then use them. Now you’re going to have to do a bit of a role swap, though. You can be me… and I’ll be you. Alright? Are you ready, for my super-duper-seduction-phrases. No. You’re not, you’ve gotta relax first.
So let’s do a simple breathing exercise, and you’re gonna use both hands to make sure you’re doing it correctly. Put one hand flat against your chest, and the other on your stomach. The goal is the hand on your chest shouldn’t move, while the one on your stomach it rises and falls with the breaths. So breathe in slow and deep through your nose. Hand on the chest, still. And breathe out through pursed lips. Then in through the nose. The hand on the stomach moves. And out again through your lips. And again, in through the nose. Hand on the chest is still. And out.
This breathing exercise, it strengthens your diaphragm. So next time you’re jogging up the stairs, you can thank me. So in again… and out. And you can keep up with that, if you like… or return to your natural breathing. Whichever feels natural to you. And let’s explore these words. Now, you can pretend you’re me, and I’m… and I’m Gomez Adams. I seriously love Gomez Adams. Though I don’t think he’d have to use these tricks to get his lady in the mood. She seems pretty damn smitten with him. And why wouldn’t she be?
So here we go… maybe put us in a candlelit dinner, as well. In a nice restaurant, not something tacky. Little bit of rain outside. Dark. Okay… and white tablecloths, I like those. So the seduction words and phrases…
[Hidden from the transcript, sorry. You’ll just have to listen and see how tickled these silly words made me.]
Okay, we can stay in the restaurant, but I’m going to be me again, okay? You can still be Gomez. That’s fine, we can keep him in this scenario. Whatever’s working for you.
Progressive Relaxation for Femdom Hypnosis
So the goal of what we do is deep relaxation. Which obviously you’d have on hand before you start using some of these words. Because I do use clever phrasing and tricks on you in our sessions together. To eliminate negative thoughts that create stress and anxiety you must disconnect your mind from your body. Similar to Femdom relationships the thrill is for one person to completely surrender to the dominant person. Not always just for sexual pleasure… but let’s not kid ourselves, that’s a really, really good goal.
And having that disconnect in erotic hypnosis… it gets easier and easier with practice. It’s similar to the use of bondage that leaves the bottom just… immobilised. Not just your actual bottom, but the bottom as in… you, not me. And I do love that. I love ropes as almost like… a clothing. Or a covering. It’s like getting to unwrap a present at the end, and so hypnosis it helps you relax into a new psychological mindset. It, in general, it can change someone’s beliefs and creates a new belief. Now it’s not always sinister, it can be, and sometimes that’s fun too. But you have a lot of beliefs about yourself that area just limiting, and in the way, in clearing them out, in putting in new beliefs, it only makes you better. Better for you, better for me, better for everyone around you.
Now, for people skilled at this kind of wordplay, you know a Mistress can artfully and cleverly dominate her submissive… and hopefully, always leaving them wanting more. Now you can be satisfied right after, but you’re going to come back. So this disconnect, it’s also great because it opens up other pleasurable possibilities. Now in person, following a deep relaxation with some hypnosis and then say… a flogging. That’ll leave a person in the subspace trance of their dreams. But we know that thanks to this shared headspace, this rich, vivid mind-playground that we’ve created, you can also find this subspace trance because you have, over and over.
Already I received… just glowing reviews of the Pirate Queen. Not gotten back to many people while on holiday. Because it was a holiday. And I hate typing with my thumbs. Ummm… but I have read quite a bit, and I know that session it took you places that you did not expect. But you don’t always need a plan, do you? Often you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens. The intensity, it comes from the unexpected. And the unexpected is possible because of the trust. Breaking those fixed beliefs and social programming, it’s just opening you up to much better.
Exploring the Pleasurable Possibilities
So, I do have a task for you today. If you perform it, you may also use it as your Permissive Circumstance. I want you to either go through one of my sessions with progressive relaxation, and I’ll link those in the show notes, or to simply breathe and slowly do the work of relaxing from your head down to your toes. Being mindful of obscure places where you may be holding tension, like the small of your back, or hands clenched.
And think about pleasurable possibilities. The pleasure of the beach, of having hours ahead of you to read a good book, or of that post-orgasm bliss, where you can snuggle down under the duvet and welcome sleep. The pleasure of the first sting of a crop, the pleasure of when a flogging goes from a bit ouchy to just being… oh fuck yes more. The pleasure of a deep kiss where mouths open and tongues explore.
The pleasure of a touch that gives you goose bumps, and the auditory pleasure of hearing words that never fail to give you a tingle. Or, a new unexpected phrase like ones experienced with the Pirate Queen. Oh I know you grinned at that… so allow those pleasures to swirl around and around in your mind as you relax your body, more and more through the breath and letting go. And then, I want you to… start to touch your body. Continue that erotic build-up. Don’t go straight for your cock, silly man! Really touch yourself all over first. Everywhere you would want my hands going over you. And then… only when you’re finally dying to touch, and you must stroke, and start to stroke, I want you to explore those sexual fantasies in your head that come about when you manage to disconnect that body from your mind. Explore them. Enjoy their richness, and then of course… tell me about your pleasurable possibilities. I’m all ears.
